Meeting the same people and not recognizing them in the new flesh is toxic AF. Knowing that you are insecure, anxious, and shame spiraling too often but doing nothing to shift that reality is toxic AF. Nurturing a relationship that harms you for the sake of belonging or family politics is toxic AF.
We are all on the path. All the healing is real. And we still need to look at the current behaviors, choices, and values to trust what is toxic AF or helpful for healing. According to Tracey at haveawordwithyourself.co.uk, not all people in recovery do the work correctly or consistently, so Navigating friendships in recovery and learning to let go helps us name toxic ways of showing up, and helps each of us take ownership for avoiding toxic vortexes.
Meisha at growURpotential.org encourages us to see relationships as an invitation to evolve on purpose, to move at the speed of trust instead of feelings and epiphanies. “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” according to the sage expressions of Brian A. “Drew” Chalker, and so many people agree because not all relationships are meant to bloom into lifetime connections.
Each of us is responsible to sort out our own garden with confidence. The sober police, the hallway monitors, the shame'ers and blamers, and the folx with that branch in they own eye all deserve reminders: stay in your own lane. The healing journey is personal, individual, and care partners are chosen not mandated. Unsolicited advice is harmful and when someone believes in you they will support you trusting your innate wisdom.
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